Featuring Boarders at 3 Wish Stable

Monique and Aladdin


I started riding when I was 4 years old with taking western riding lessons. When I was 10, I fell in love with a neighbor's horse who had become a pasture pet in their backyard and they offered to lease him to my parents for the summer. At the end of the summer they decided they didn’t want him back so my parents bought him for me. His name was Tango, and he became my heart horse and competition horse in 4H and English competitions all through high school. He retired when I was 16, and while I would go trail riding here and there I stopped riding for the past 10-12 years until I found Collette through a lease ad for Aladdin, I could just tell by the way she described him and her program that she was exactly the trainer hat I was looking for. I bought Aladdin in December of 2025 after leasing him from Collette for 6 months. Aladdin was the first horse I rode when I came to Collette and I just knew he was special. I bought Aladdin for his personality and his potential, he is hands down the smartest horse I have ever worked with and also the most willing. Collette did such a wonderful job starting him and bringing him along that I knew I wanted to be the one to continue the journey with him. I think what makes our relationship so special is his willingness to try whatever I task him. Our bond is so strong that he feels confident taking on new challenges. I also love that there are many days where we do nothing but sit together under the trees outside while he grazes. He is truly my heart horse. Aladdin has been shown through training level but is schooling 2nd level movements at this time. Our goal for this upcoming season is to qualify for regionals at training level 3, for Collette to take him first level as his first experience, and then for me to hopefully get a qualifying score at first level with him to progress towards our bronze. But if all else fails, to just enjoy the journey. Our riding community at Collette Zimmer Dressage is a slice of paradise. I genuinely look forward to seeing every single person at the barn, and the days where we get to ride together. It is the most supportive community and I feel so lucky that we have this place to come together.




Monika and Opie

I rode as a kid and loved it, but I never really thought I would ride again as an adult. That changed when my daughter received riding lessons from a friend for her birthday. She was not very interested in riding, but I became friends with the mom, who had horses and kept encouraging me to go on trail rides with her. Three years later, I bought my first horse — lol!We moved to Tampa exactly one year ago, and at first riding was the last thing on my mind. We were focused on figuring out schools, our new house, and the distance to my husband’s work. Once we settled in, I started searching for a barn, and Collette came up in my search. To my surprise, her barn was only seven minutes away. It truly felt like it was meant to be. I did visit another barn, but after my trial lesson with Collette, I instantly knew it was the right fit. The lesson felt so great — it was almost like she was riding right along with me. She was so focused on helping me understand and improve, and I knew right away that we would do well together. I bought Opus One, aka Opie beginning of June. My original plan was to maybe buy a horse toward the end of the year, and I thought I was only starting the search. We even joked that there was no way I would buy the first horse I saw. Well, Opie was the first horse — and he is perfect. What makes him so special is that the connection felt natural right away. He has such a kind, willing presence, and I feel very lucky to have found him. I am excited to build a partnership with him and grow together. My main goal is to learn as much as I can. Opie has come to the barn at the perfect time, and I feel very fortunate to be building this partnership with him under Collette’s guidance. The three of us — Opie, Collette, and me — will work together to reach our goals and continue leveling up in our dressage journey. Collette and her barn are everything a person could ask for. The positive energy, knowledge, and supportive environment make it such a wonderful place to ride and learn. I feel very lucky and fortunate to be part of this community.


Kristina and Dianna


I started riding in the saddle-seat discipline when I was 10. I competed in saddle-seat and then mostly hunt-seat equitation for seven years before leaving with Dianna and starting on our own. We started dressage with Collette in January 2026 and have never been happier. Collette and Noni had taught at my old show barn for a bit when I was younger, so when I was looking for a dressage trainer that aligned with my values on horsemanship, Collette was recommended to me again by a friend. I bought Dianna as a two-year-old when I was 12 years old. My trainer had brought in her and her brother to sell to her riders, and Dianna immediately caught my attention. Now she’s 8 and I’m 18 and we’ve pretty much grown up together. Dianna is my anchor in life, I could never imagine letting her go. She gives me 110% in everything that she does and my first priority will always be her health and happiness.
I started dressage at the same time that Dianna did, in January 2026. Right now there’s a lot of retraining to rehab old saddle-seat methods in both Dianna and I. My goal is to take things slow to make sure we have all of our correct basics down so that Dianna can feel her very best, which she’s already improved on so much since we moved to Collette’s barn. Maybe later on we can look at competing, but only when Dianna and I are ready. Everyone at the barn is so nice and has come up to introduce themselves to me multiple times. It’s such a welcoming environment that I needed after the more toxic environment of my old show barn. It’s a very healthy barn, from the horses to the amazing people.


Suzanne and Bubba


I have been riding off and on since I was a little girl. I started lessons about 10 years old and then stopped after the local barn was sold to developers. I was sad! I started riding again more seriously in my early 30’s after I married and moved with my husband to Wisconsin. I actually bought my first horse there. Dalton, my paint moved with us to Florida after our family got settled here. He passed unfortunately in April 2021 due to issues with navicular disease

I bought Bubba as a 9 year old. He is from Georgia. He was trained originally as a reining horse, I discovered Collette’s Dressage online through a facebook posting. I was intrigued and was thinking that I might need to go in a different direction with both my and Bubba’s training. I am new to dressage. Bubba is kind, curious, and a willing partner. He loves spending time grazing with me. It has been an excellent decision to move to Collette’s farm.

My goals are to feel really comfortable and confident riding Bubba at all gaits, look forward to and be confident at horse shows. I’m loving being able to ride around the beautiful property at 3 Wish Stable and so happy to make new friends who share my equine passion.


Jenna and Remi


Like many of my horse friends, I was horse crazy as a kid. When I was 13 my family went halfsies with the family across the street on a pony named Tiata. We had all kinds of adventures together! I rode almost daily through high school, but regretfully gave up riding entirely before I left for college. As a stay-at-home mom I was never able to swing horse ownership, but dove in again in my mid forties. I purchased a young Saddlebred that wasn't a good fit for me, and after several years of watching trainers work with him I ended up giving him to a friend better equipped to deal with his issues than I was. Not having a horse left a hole in my heart, so I bought Remington in March of 2022. Since then we've both had holes in various body parts, and we remain grateful to the equine and human medical personnel in the Tampa area!  current barn, and now, looking back, it feels like the timing could not have been more providential. Remi and I began our journey at a large, busy barn, but we both needed something more calm; a space to refocus on our partnership and not be worried about the chaos around us. Two of my horsey friends know and respect Collette and her training methods, so I gave her a call. I came to CZD just a week or two after her move to her I am embarrassed to say that I was not as diligent as I should have been in purchasing Remington, but he is so gorgeous, and has such a funny personality, I found him irresistible. Of course, I love him dearly, and although it hasn't been an easy road, I learn something new about horses almost every time we are together. Most amazing to me is his ability to seemingly read my mind, which forces me to turn my thoughts from what could go wrong and to focus on the positive. My long-term goal is to someday own a piece of property where I can sit in a rocking chair on my front porch and watch a very old Remington grazing in his pasture. In the short term my goals are ever evolving. Currently, my riding is on pause (again!) as Collette and I try to better understand some of Remi's physical limitations. The last four years have been particularly challenging, and although my riding goals are humble, I do wonder if I will ever reach them. Sometimes it's hard to even think about training goals, and to not be envious of those around me who are succeeding, but in the end I just want to do what is right for my horse, even if that means letting go of what I was initially hoping to accomplish. It was difficult to make the leap and to leave a barn and trainer that were familiar- but I'm so thankful that I did! Collette is not only a beautiful rider and fastidious trainer, but she cares deeply for horses AND for people. There is a kindness and openness to her that seems to draw like-minded people to her barn, and I feel privileged to be a part of it. My new barn family has been so welcoming and encouraging, and if Remington and I are going to figure things out, I believe with all of my heart that we are in exactly the right place to do that.


Maggy and Tera


I had a Quarter Horse together with my daughter for 20 years doing dressage exercises but not showing. After Razcal's passing, I took dressage lessons for years with a several trainers and horses. After retirement to FL, I started leasing a horse with the goal doing the Century Club Ride. To my chagrin, the stable was sold and the horse was retired last year. I found Collette Zimmer Dressage online and drove to the stable on the same day last October. Collette had the perfect horse to lease, sweet schoolmaster Debonair, aka Noni the Pony (26). Thanks to Collette's outstanding training, Noni and I competed at the Suncoast Dressage Show in March 2026, training level 3, which was our Century Club ride. Training with Collette and Noni rekindled the wish to have my own horse again. I found Tera, an 18 year old Andalusian mare, on facebook. On March 16, I brought Tera home to 3 Wish Stable, a horse and rider dressage paradise. My goal is to ride a Century Club Ride with Tera in a few years. Our stable family is full of energy, acceptance, and love. When Collette rides our various horses in perfect harmony and balance, we see what they are capable of doing. With her passionate expertise and solid teaching methods, she'll progressively guide us making our dressage and riding wishes come true!

Debonaire, aka "Noni the Pony"

HOMMAGE TO DEBONAIR, or NONI THE PONY

Noni at age 26 after a clip job

Sweet and robust DEBONAIR is a German pony, born on March 31, 2000. DEBONAIR means “confident, stylish, and charming.” Webster Dictionary adds: “suave, nonchalant, gentle, courteous. ,,, “Calling someone debonair is another way of saying they've got a certain Je ne sais quoi, or to be more specific (and to complete the rhyme,) savoir faire.” There certainly is something French to this German Pony. We can pick from the additional online list of adjectives that define “debonair” that perfectly describes Noni, as everyone calls him at the barn: gracious, well-mannered, courteous, gallant, genteel, well-bred, smart, dashing, dapper, ….etc. This 26 year-old horse is one valued and hard-working lesson horse!

Noni came into my life when I first moved to Florida in 2009 as a working student to pursue my dressage career. He was in training with my trainer, Erin Brinkman, and therefore I got to know him very well and even rode him in lessons with her. I remember he had a LOT of energy back then! Erin would say he has the gas pedal pushed down all the way all the time, lol!

A few months later, my friend Shannon bought him and used him for her Grandson to ride. I like to say he was very well preserved during that time, and also a bit under-utilized. She had a lesson program and used him to teach kids also. A few years later, I moved closer to Shannon and started riding him for her again - it was just like old times, and he still had a lot of energy! Shannon did eventually sell him, as her grandson was no longer riding him, and he went to a sweet older lady. However, Noni had too much energy for her, and when I heard that it was not going well with them, I reached out to her to see if I could help with him, since I always felt a strong connection with him.

When she said yes, she wanted to sell him, I knew he would be mine, and I acquired him to start using in my lesson program, and he arrived in February of 2021. I was working in Georgia at the time (during Covid, it was the best place to be!) and working with a lot of kids, so having a well-schooled lesson pony was invaluable. Given his energy, sensitivity and lofty gaits (don’t let his size fool you!) he did a lot of lunge lessons, but he soon learned his job and with the help of a tom thumb bit, he was able to be ridden by kids off the lunge line and do some local schooling shows.

Although Noni is ridden – sometimes twice per day – by many lesson riders with a variety of abilities, he is sensitive and communicates when he understands the aid and when he doesn't understand. He is a competent teacher, a veritable school master. He teaches his riders how to use their seat, and correct timing and application of the aids. His lateral work is a breeze, and he is steady in the contact. He is trained to 3rd/4th level, and could still help a rider earn their bronze with good scores!

In addition to being used in the lesson program, he has also had several riders part-lease him to invest in their riding education and also take him to shows.

Natalie riding Noni at a SDCTA show

His most recent leaser was Maggy, who came to my barn late afternoon on October 11, 2025 when Noni was showered in the wash-stall, and I was helping a student to tack up Rio for a lesson. The petite elderly woman introduced herself, and said that she was looking for dressage lessons and a horse for lease to train for the Century Club ride. “I have the perfect pony for you, Noni the Pony, 25 years young!” Noni picked his ears and looked invitingly at Maggy who fell in love with him right at this very moment. We agreed to a few lessons and our half-lease contract was signed two weeks later. Maggy who had leased a horse before at a stable that was sold, had a clear goal, and I could help her reaching it with Deboanir how she called him lovingly and full of adoration. Read more about it here: The Dressage Foundation's Century Club

Maggy after her Century Club ride.

Noni gets a lot of love and care from all his riders. He cherishes being groomed and showered and massaged. As all of my horses, he gets individualized supplements and medication for the specific conditions. Thus, Noni's Cushing's Disease is controlled without major symptoms other than sensitive skin and needing to be clipped regularly, which he loves anyway! He will continue to be a valued member of my lesson herd until he tells me he is ready to retire, but he is not slowing down just yet!

New Beginnings and More Firsts

“March comes in like a lion and leaves like a lamb,” goes the proverb, generally describing the weather in the Northern part of our country. Yet, this saying is so true for my dressage training business. It became increasingly more difficult to have my horses at the stable where I subleased stalls and pastures besides other parties who had stalls in the same barn, using the same small, dark tack area, wash stall, feed loft, etc. Teaching lessons in the area that I built from a patch of weedy land on the property – leveling sand brought by trucks, installing the sprinkler system and the outdoor lights, etc. was my preferred place where I not only taught lessons with my hard working five horses but we also had many fun and joyous Saddle Club meetings next to this arena where we had bon fires, shared food, and learned about horsemanship. By the beginning of March tensions mounted at the crammed barn, and I felt like I was in a lion’s den.

Destiny combined with gracious luck led me to a wonderful opportunity to move my business to a new location just 15 minutes away to a large facility where I once used to teach. On March 13, Saddle Club members and some of their family, students, and friends helped dismantling the arena and sprinkler system, loading all my horse equipment and training stuff on trucks and into cars, and we drove to the new place like a caravan out of Egypt! Everyone helped unload and piling my horse belongings in the wash/tack-up area. Then, I gave a tour to my wide-eyed students and helpers who couldn’t believe that this magnificent stable is where Collette Zimmer Dressage is now going to be housed. I started the tour with – some priorities must come first! –  the air-conditioned restrooms! (one has a spacious shower and there is a lady’s powder room – no more walking to the adjacent property to use a rundown bathroom) followed by a spacious, air-conditioned tack storage room for boarders, my personal, AC tack room with saddle racks and bridle hooks for all my horses’ tack (no more piling saddle upon saddle and three/four bridles on the same nail), then leading the group down the wide barn with individual stalls right and left, illuminated by barn chandeliers on the ceiling then stepping out to marvel at the expansive individual pastures, where the horses will be at night.

With a group of Saddle Club helpers at the new stable.

Two days later, on Sunday March 15, the same group helped load saddles, tack, buckets, feed and hay, and every single item that belongs to me on trucks and into cars before we loaded the astonished but calm and curious horses on trailers. “Where are we going?” their glances asked us. The second caravan arrived at the new stable a few minutes later. The horses unloaded with ease; they were calm and interested in what they saw, their new home! We walked with them around the buildings, along their pastures, and finally into their stalls. They now are all together, they can see, hear, and smell each other. We could see that they are pleased and happy! – My heartfelt thanks go to the amazing helpers and especially to my dear and wonderful friend Matt; without their physical, emotional, and spiritual support I could have never accomplished this big move so smoothly and safely. THANK YOU ALL!

The following week, I organized my new stable home with the help of Shelby, my barn manager. The move went smoothly, so did this gigantic step into a new chapter of my life and business. Teaching lessons and riding/training my Friesian Dallas resumed the following week.

Maggy and Noni after the Century Club Ride. Collette right of Noni and USDF judge Sue Kolstad on the left.

On Saturday, March 28, I drove with my student Maggy and my beloved 25-year-old lesson horse Noni the Pony to the Suncoast Dressage Festival, a USDF recognized show, in Tampa. Maggy rode with Noni Training Level Test 3, her first recognized show. It also was her Century Club Ride (horse and rider must be 100+ years old to qualify). Many students came to support Maggy and Noni; they are the first Century Club team I trained.

On the last day of March (31), we celebrated Noni’s 26th birthday. He was so astonished to get so many treats, horse cookies baked by Helen, bananas, apples, carrots, and many, many kisses and hugs.

March went out like a lamb or rather like our senior horse Noni the beloved Pony, calm, cuddly, and full of life!

A weekend of firsts with Dallas.

A Weekend of Firsts with Dallas: Trust, Growth, and Listening to the Horse

Dallas schooling the night before the show. He was so relaxed and confident!

This past weekend was full of “firsts” — and the kind that remind you why thoughtful training and patience always pay off.

It was my very first time showing Dallas.

Since owning him, I had only taken him off property one other time, so I truly didn’t know what to expect. Would he be nervous? Distracted? Overwhelmed by a new environment?

I’m happy to say he absolutely exceeded my expectations.

When we arrived on Saturday to school, we rode alongside a couple of his “brothers,” and once he had a little time to acclimate, he was confident and not spooky at all. In fact, he was more attentive to the smaller aids than he usually is at home — where he’s constantly distracted by the neighbor’s cows. (Apparently, showgrounds are less interesting than livestock!)

Sunday’s warm-up was one of those rides you never forget. Dallas warmed up beautifully, and I felt the best quality canter I’ve ever experienced on him. He felt relaxed, uphill, and truly seemed to be enjoying himself.

Then came our turn.

Dallas confidently left his brothers in the warm-up arena to head into the ring — but just as we did, the wind picked up and a sign blew nearby. In that moment, he decided he was no longer okay being away from his buddies. He became tense and nervous almost instantly.

I introduced myself to the judge and then had a quiet “discussion” with Dallas about which direction we were going to go. I debated whether it was fair to ride the test at all, especially knowing I would be asking him to canter right in front of the judge while he was feeling that anxious.

In the end, I made the call to scratch.

The judge sounded surprised, but when I asked if I could simply walk and warm up around the perimeter for the time my test would have taken, she kindly agreed. As soon as the next horse entered the arena, Dallas began to relax.

Sometimes listening to the horse is the real win.

As the day went on, the weather took a turn for the worse — including a tornado warning while some of my students were riding. I was scheduled as the final ride of the group and was considering scratching again when Monique decided to go for it. Since she was just one ride before me, I chose to take Dallas out to warm up and see how he felt.

This time was different.

Because I was also coaching my students, I spent more time simply sitting quietly on him. Interestingly, standing around and letting him process everything relaxed him far more than keeping him moving.

By the time we were called, he was noticeably calmer. His brothers were nearby, and the show arena was right next to the warm-up — all of which helped him feel secure.

We went in.

He was a little nervous at first, but then he took a breath, settled, and gave me a genuinely good test.

And just like that, our first show together was in the books.

This weekend wasn’t about ribbons or scores — it was about building trust, gaining experience, and letting Dallas learn that new environments can be positive ones. Every outing like this lays another brick in the foundation for the future.

We’re off to a really good start.

Clinic with Megan McGee

This last weekend I had the chance to ride in a clinic with Megan McGee. I had never ridden with her before, but I had met her a few weeks ago when I took some of my students to their first schooling show that she was judging. I found her to be a very fair judge with a positive and supportive attitude. She gave my kids a great first show experience. So I was excited about getting a chance to ride with her.

I took Tucci, a 19 year old Friesian/Saddlebred I am showing 4th level, who was a 10 year old, western trained stallion when I started working with him. It’s amazing to be able to say that he could not keep the canter or even go to the right when I started riding him. When we met, she was very complimentary of how fit, robust, and young-looking he looked. She loved how he was bred and wanted to know his pedigree. I thought it was very sweet and it made me feel comfortable.

When we started warming up, she just sat back and watched. Tucci was a little tense, so I gave him a long walk warm up. He likes to stop and look at things. If something catches his eye, he gets really sucked back, which results in an uneven tempo in his trot and canter as I kick him forward, and he sucks back over and over. Also, because of his conformation, he likes to put his head up and gets blocked at the base of his neck, resulting in him being a bit blocked in his back as well.

After I warmed him up, we chatted about the work we had done, and what needed to be improved. She agreed that he needed to go much more freely forward. She also remarked at how intelligent he is. She believed (as I have been suspecting) that Tucci is not actually spooking in his new environment, she thinks he is just very, very smart and knows that I am not going to really get after him in front of a crowd of people. He is just not the type of horse that gives you anything you don’t work for. She gave me a great tip for the 2 minute warm up around the ring before you go in - she said he would be a good candidate to just canter him very forward around the ring right before the bell. I definitely feel like that would have improved our work at my last show, so I’m going to try it!

I told her that I was preparing to show 4-3 next weekend, and we discussed his best and worst movements. His trot work is all pretty good, and he even has a pretty descent passage. The canter has always been his most difficult gait. It took two years to get a clean change from left to right - it was often late in front, which is unusual! But now the changes are almost always clean, which is fantastic. His lateral work is good, too. The pirouettes are by far the hardest movement with him, and we have been doing our homework there, but we did not touch on them too much with Megan, since she said it was too close to the show to make changes to something difficult, which I agreed with. She did, however, give me an excellent tip regarding riding the 10 meter canter to 10 meter counter canter circle. She said that because the judge can only really tell how big the circle is in relationship to the centerline, they can’t tell how far down you go, and it may help your horse to ride that circle a little more like an oval, so that it’s a bit bigger and therefore easier for the horse to stay in front of your leg. She actually said that the judge would rather see you ride a movement that is difficult for your horse like that, since it shows you know you need to compensate a little in that area.

When we went back to work, she supported my idea of carrying two whips, which definitely helped him to pay more attention to me. A lot of time when he gets sucked back, and I send him forward in the canter down the long side, he will throw a flying change in instead of going forward, a smart evasion on his part because he knows you should never really punish a horse for doing a flying change! Instead, she had me send him forward on a circle while giving both reins forward so he could reach out of the base of his neck, which I felt made it more clear to him that he was not supposed to change, so therefore he went more forward and over his back. Once he got opened up, we had some quality work where he was soft and lifting through the base of the neck. She was very impressed with how active behind he is, and the quality of his lateral work and his changes. I went home feeling proud of the work I have done with him, as well as got some great tips on how to go for our best score next weekend!

Going for GOLD!

A BIG THANK YOU to all who have contributed! I have not yet met my fundraising goal, but I wanted to give an update on what I have achieved thus far, thanks to your help! For those of you that are interested, you can still contribute!

https://www.gofundme.com/f/going-for-usdf-gold-help-collette-dream-big&rcid=r01-156202052544-2bde62b5d51a44ae&pc=ot_co_campmgmt_w

I only had Stiletto for a short time before he went back to Alabama to fulfill his breeding contracts, so I skipped 4th level and went right to Prix St George; where I was able to fulfill the PSG scores I needed for myn USDF Silver medal in ONE show!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4Lta7ZTZ30

After that I started working on my GOLD and was able to achieve the Intermediare 1 scores with him that I needed for my USDF Gold medal in ONE show! Now all that is needed is my Grand Prix scores. I also bought a beautiful Navy blue shad belly!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgLa_wL8wgk

I was able to compete Preston for the first time in 4 or 5 years, and he thought it was a little unfair for me to take him out 4th level, which is what we were schooling at home, but it was honestly a bit of a stretch... I was able to get one of the 4th level scores I needed for my silver, but now I am afraid that Preston did not have a good time at the last show, and I am going to back him off to 3rd level, which he will easily be able to accomplish. After winning his confidence back, I will take him out 4th level again - aiming for my final score for my silver.

So my immediate fundraising needs are to show Preston at least 2-3 more times as well as get the coaching I need to get him there. This involves lesson fees, travel fees, show fees, and a hotel for each weekend away.

Long term goals include obtaining a horse to do the Grand Prix with. This could be a lease on a horse already doing Grand Prix, buying a prospect to later resell, or importing a horse as an investment.

Thank you all for the time you have spent reading

Anger and setting boundaries

I am allergic to bees - not so much bees, but hornets. ! I found this out the hard way about 2 years ago when I got attacked by ground hornets and went into anaphylactic shock. Thank GOD someone left an epi pen at the barn, and someone was there to help me or I would have died.

I got stung again the other day, thankfully not attacked, just one sting on my thigh. What I have learned is this:

Hornets are angry little buggers! They hit you very quickly with an energy that says “F-YOU!” They are very territorial and will attack you without feeling sorry for you or wondering why you went near them. When they sting you it is very painful and the pain lasts for days. After it happens, you remember exactly where you were when you got stung, and you won’t be inclined to go there again. They have very clear boundaries. After they attack you, they go about their day as if nothing ever happened.

This is pretty much the exact opposite of the energy I put into the world, which is probably why I have such a strong reaction when I encounter it. When someone crosses my boundaries, instead of getting angry I doubt myself and tell myself that I shouldn’t be feeling that way. Inevitably the anger builds up and festers. I end up carrying it around and therefore it affects my entire existence in the world. I realize that a healthier way to handle anger is to express it and let it go. Which is perhaps why I got stung about a week after the first time I ever told someone to “Go F—- yourself!” Those little hornets were trying to teach me something about anger.

So when I got stung, instead of panicking I actually closed my eyes and meditated - incorporating all that anger into my whole being and I had much less of a reaction to it than I would have otherwise. When I did this, the pain lessened. And what I have learned since is that the people that love you will still love you when you express that you are angry with them. The people that walk away are the people that never loved you in the first place, so they don’t matter anyway. And in fact, I have such genuine people in my life that they appreciate knowing what my boundaries are, and how I am feeling, which makes me feel really blessed.

My regular bi-annual blog post =)

I really have to get better about keeping up with this thing. My last blog post was about the 2016 RRP. My horse and I went and had a blast! My family also came to support me, and for many of them it was their first time seeing me compete. Fortunately, we did very well and came in 8th in the freestyle! Wall Street Bull has his own facebook page if you want to see more about him. He was bought by a student of mine, and was very well matched with her!

I finished out the year at the barn I was leasing in Milton, Fl. It was a 7 stall barn with a large house that I shared with a roommate. My barn was full and I had a waiting list, it was time to move on. I had been contacted by Gerard Kirsch at the Pensacola Riding Center, and told that he was looking to lease half of his barn. Gerard is a very well respected dressage trainer from France, and had been at that location for over 20 years, maybe more. He was trying to sell the place to retire, but was having trouble finding a buyer, so leasing was his next best option. We got along very well, and I liked the idea of having support from another trainer, so I moved my business to Cantonment, Fl; where I had a 12 stall barn and six pastures in addition to use of 5 riding arenas, all lighted and one covered. I started the new year at this facility and almost immediately I filled up the barn. I was poised and ready!

Meanwhile, I was having a health problem that I was dealing with. My doctor didn’t really know what it was, and taking the time (and money) away from the barn to go to doctor appointments did not seem feasible at the time. I had horses to ride, a barn to manage, and lessons to teach! Anyone in this position knows how tight money can be, especially after making a move to a new barn where it takes time to figure out how to run things most efficiently, so I put my health concerns on the back burner. After all, it “only” bothered me when I rode.

Fast forward a few more months, and it started to get very painful and eventually I could not ride at all. I found a new doctor, had some tests and found out that I needed surgery. The recovery period was longer than anticipated, and very painful. I could not ride for a couple months, so I sent all the horses home. This is a pretty scary situation to be in when you make your living training horses. Fortunately I still had the apartment at the barn with Gerard, and he was very supportive. I also have amazing friends and family that really stepped up to the plate to help, and lots of people who regularly checked on me. Despite the outpouring of love, I have to admit that I got pretty depressed during this time. I have a theory that horse people and riders are prone to depression anyway, and that’s why they are drawn to horses. When you are with horses you have to be in the moment, and riding is therapeutic.

Being sidelined, I had a lot of time to reflect and to pray. Even when I had 12 horses in training, I was not really happy. I was riding everyone else’s horses and not achieving my own riding goals. I was tired all the time, had no social life, and money was always tight. Why was I doing it? This repeated over and over in my head. I always have said that if I couldn’t ride, I wouldn’t do it, and I was in a position to where I wasn’t really sure if I was ever going to be able to ride comfortably again. I prayed and prayed for God to take the love of horses and the passion for dressage out of my heart and show me another path - it was just too hard.

But it did not happen. I came back from my recovery with more clarity - I wanted to focus on bringing along quality young horses and doing sales for the business end of my career, two areas where I am passionate and have had success. But I also needed to focus on my own riding - find a talented horse to show and get a coach. The latter was going to be the hardest part for me to cultivate. For what seemed like forever (it was only a couple months) I was having door after door slammed in my face no matter which way I turned. A deal fell through on a barn I was going to buy, then I found a boarding stable where the care was not sufficient, I was just having no luck and running out of options.

It was mentioned to me during this time by a few different people that Jean Brinkman at Valhalla Farm was looking for a trainer. I never in a million years thought I would end up back there - but I contacted her and moved out there shortly after! I received such a warm welcome, not just at the barn, but also by the whole neighborhood. It has become a really neat community out here. It really felt like I was returning home, and it’s not the first time I have come back after feeling battered and bruised and been made whole again. In addition to that, it is the perfect place to work on my own riding while also having the opportunity to expand my business.

I am back working with Faithkeeper, whom I plan to get my silver on. I am also making a lot of use of the theraplate and bemer blanket, which are both used for therapy. Preston is coming back into work and feels better than ever, so I am very happy about that. Tucci is also doing super and will be showing 3rd level this winter. I will be bringing in more training horses, and I have several sale horses that I am working with and will be advertising soon. There is more in the works, but you will have to stay tuned!

Riding the rhythm

The intent of this blog is not just to keep a record of where I am and what I am doing, but also to share some Insights regarding horse training, primarily in dressage, that I have gained through my work.  I hope this finds an audience that appreciates it, though it is largely for my own purposes. This is such an entry. 

At a basic level, the training scale is the basis for dressage. Each lower rung needs to be achieved in order for the next rung to be developed.  Though, as we work our way up the scale towards collection, we also revist the lower rungs, the "basics," and fine tune in order to get the best performance from our horse.  I will give a general description of what is meant by rhythm, and then show how it applies specifically to training my own personal horse, an 11 year old 15.3 hand Trakehner gelding.  Specifically, how improving the rhythm has helped in overcoming specific training hurdles - medium trot and flying changes. 

Preston schooling half pass

Rhythm is the first and most important rung on the scale.  Without a clear and consistent rhythm, our horses gaits do not improve, they become muddled and unclear. It is the ultimate goal of dressage to develop our horses as athletes through improving upon their natural gaits. Each gait has it's own rhythm. The walk has a 1-2-3-4 rhythm, which should be even and clear. If the horse displays a 1-2, 3-4 rhythm, it shows that there is tension in the walk and that it has probably gone lateral. The walk is the easiest gait to ruin, and the hardest to improve. 

The trot has an even 1-2 rhythm as one diagonal pair of legs hit the ground at the same time followed by a moment of suspension, then the next diagonal pair of legs strike the ground. With young horses and green riders, it is important to focus on keeping the tempo (an element of rhythm, which addresses how quickly the horses feet strike the ground) the same.  It is often seen at this stage of development that the trot rushes forward (quickens) and then slows down before quickening again. Without keeping the tempo the same and the rhythm clear, the horse will never get to the next stage, which is relaxation. As the horse develops, rhythm and tempo need to be revisited, as many horses will tend to quicken when asked for medium and extended trots, which cause the hind leg to step short rather than fully stepping under and supporting the combined weight of horse and rider, which is an issue I have been working on with my own horse. 

The canter has a 1-2-3 rhythm, followed by a moment of suspension. Horses that have a good canter will easily display this rhythm. Horses that tend to run on the forehand or not fully step under with the hind leg will often add a fourth beat in the canter, as the second beat of the canter is the inside hind and outside foreleg striking the ground together, and in these horses they will hit at slightly different times. This rhythm fault is usually corrected by riding the horse more forward.  An extremely collected canter may display four beats, but this is not considered a rhythm fault necessarily, as the horse has shifted it's weight so far back that the inside hind leg has to hit the ground before the outside foreleg because of the elevation of the forehand.

With my personal horse, Preston, we have touched on all the elements of the training scale, but in order to improve on the collected work, the medium trot, and the flying changes; we needed to go back a bit and fine tune the rhythm.  He tends to be a sensitive horse who wants to please and work hard. This is a great attribute in a horse!  But this attribute also lends it's own training challenges.  I hope my insights will help others who are working with similar horses.

He often overthinks the exercises we are doing, and this mental tension results in physical tension, which is displayed through him getting too quick in his tempo.  This quickness results in tension through his topline, and in moments of extreme tension he grinds his teeth and swishes his tail.  The natural inclination is to slow the horse down with the hands and try to alleviate topline tension through suppling the horse and lowering the neck.  Without supporting the horse with the leg, this can be considered "front to back" riding, and is incorrect and ineffective.  But HOW do you support the horse with the leg when the horse is already too quick and seemingly running away from the leg?  WHY is the horse running from the leg in the first place?  These are questions that I have been seeking the answer to. 

I have worked hard to teach my horse to listen to my seat, which is part of the answer.  He listens to half halts and full halts from the seat.  I understand keeping the rhythm with the seat and have developed a kind of metronome in my head.  However, when working on something new or challenging, my horse would still get tense and at that point he would begin to run through my half-halts and would not want to take the weight and flex the joints in his hind legs.  Trying to use my leg on him at this point would worsen the problem, which meant I was back to trying to fix him in the front again.  I would usually go back to doing a lot of walk/trot transitions and get him listening to my "go" and "whoa" aids.  Sometimes I would be able to go on from there, but usually I would stop when he was listening to my seat again, and try to maintain the relaxation from the beginning on my next ride. 

I know that instructors in the past have tried to teach me about lower leg contact, but it was not until I rode with Andrew Palmer that I finally understood different technique of using my lower leg, which helped slow down the tempo and increase leg acceptance - both things which contributed to helping my horse relax and accept the work.  It's funny about lightbulb moments, you usually have to be in the right place at the right time and have someone tell you something in just the right way for it to sink in. 

Most horses I have ridden are not as sensitive and forward thinking as my horse, and I have learned to make the horse more sensitive to the leg by riding with lower legs "off" unless I was asking something.  This makes the horse quick to respond when you put the leg on, which is the feeling I prefer.  I have found myself to be pretty effective in using my leg this way.  However, my horse is already quick to the leg and quick in the hind legs.  Riding him this way was causing the tension problems we were having.  It would surprise him when my leg was suddenly there, when it wasn't there a second ago.  He couldn't relax, because he never knew when I was going to ask something of him, which caused him to anticipate.

Andrew taught me to improve my horses rhythm by slowing down my seat and slowing down my legs aids - keep my legs on LONGER each time I ask for something.  I am very aware of the timing of the aids and let my horses rhythm dictate my leg aid, so it's a new concept to me to keep my leg on for a split second longer that what feels natural in order to slow the hind legs down, which helps them to step further under.  In fact, it seems to improve the rhythm (and therefore relaxation) when I ride with my seat, keep leg contact, and just pulse my aids.  I use a lot of changing of positioning between shoulder-in and haunches-in to increase my horse's acceptance of the leg, and slide my legs along the horse when changing positioning rather than taking them off and repositioning.  Having my horse more accepting of the leg allows me to control the rhythm with my seat, which I really need when asking for medium trot - he tends to want to just run and get flat.  Now I am able to slow the tempo with my seat, and pulse my leg aids and ask for more suspension. 

It is the same in the canter, which has helped me to improve the flying changes, since they were often tight and tense from my horse anticipating so much.  Now I make sure to keep both legs in contact with him.  In both the trot and canter, you want to ride the "UP" phase of the gait, and ask the horse to stay off the ground longer.  When schooling the changes I often ask for a little haunches in, which helps me control the hind leg and also ensures that I have my outside leg on.  With my inside leg (and my seat) I ask for more jump in the canter.  I like to think "jump, jump, jump, straighten," and then ask.  Again, make sure to slide the legs along the horse when asking for the change, rather than taking the legs off and kicking him with the new outside leg. 

I have only been riding at Royal Palm farm for just over 2 weeks now, and I am so excited about how much my riding has improved already.  Please let me know if these insights are valuable or interesting to you, and I will keep sharing them!

Tucci is back!

About a week ago, my good friends Kendall and Vicki brought their horse to me to train while I am at Andrews. When I am done here, I am going to go work at Kendall and Vicki's barn in Florida, so it is nice to get a head start on his training, and get some help from Andrew while I am here.

I met Kendall and Vicki when I was in Destin working with Jodie Kelly.   They had just purchased Tucci and brought him there for training. He was a stallion at the time and was gelded shortly after arriving. Vicki loves to tell the story of how I met them at the barn at 4:00am on a cold February morning and walked right on the trailer with a stallion I did not know to help unload him. 

Tucci came into training with me and Kendall became a regular student of mine. It was a fun project as Tucci did not turn to the right, and Kendall had not ridden in 20 years!  I started Kendall out on the lunge line like I do all my students, and taught him basic dressage in the ring.  Not emasculating at all!  Kendall is a trail rider at heart and likes to get on and go!  But he does understand that dressage training helps his horse's overall fitness and strengthens him to carry his rider. It is particularly important in this case, because Tucci has a short, tight back, and Kedall is a tall rider. Without strengthening his back through the dressage work, Tucci could develop a sway back over time and could become lame. 

Tucci is a Fresian/saddlebred cross. When I first got him, he only knew the basics, and was so stuck on his right shoulder that turning right was hard for him and he did not want to pick up the right lead canter. He ran into the canter both directions. We worked on getting him straight, getting a depart into the canter, and began some lateral work.  I worked with him for almost a year, and after I move away, Kendall did a little trail riding with him, but he developed severe fly allergies and has not been ridden for the past 10 months, so he is pretty out of shape. 

This is the first time I have gotten a horse back after having him in training for awhile. I am amazed to find out that he remembers everything we had been working on!  He just needs some fitness. It is a really good feeling to know that I have helped a horse in a permanent way, and probably lots of others too!